Friday, January 21, 2011

what would you do?

I've been feeling conflicted with this feeling I'm having. I'm not sure how i feel or how i should feel.
Should I? Or shouldn't I?
What would she think?
I wish I could but I'm afraid........

About a week ago I've been noticing this mother and son walking in the snow to...I'm not sure where. She's bundled up and he is too. He seems to be around 4 or 5 or maybe younger. He is small. And she's holding his hand and walking him on the sidewalk, or what's left of a sidewalk. It's covered with snow and there's really no space for her to walk any less than her son but she gives him the sidewalk while she tries to walk around the snow. Probably so her son can be safe {if that is even possible}.....
I've drove pass this mother and child numerous times and every time i do, i want to stop and turn around. Drive up to her and ask if she'd like a ride. I'm not sure where they are going but I'm not in a hurry to go anywhere. I'm just coming back from dropping the kids off at school and she's probably trying to get to work and him to day care or preschool.
I want to help.............but i'm afraid. Now a days what will people think? She might think i'm psycho or some kind of freak who'll lash out and beat her or whatever.. {haven't you watched enough thrillers or scary movies?}
I feel bad for her having to walk in the snow with her child. It's so cold outside. This is the time of year when i get really emotional and feeling really bad that i complain about a lot of things but then i see this......this mother and child walking in the snow so they could get to wherever they are going. I bet they probably don't complain as much as i do.
Sometimes i want a new car simply because i see one that's nicer and prettier..........i bet she wishes she had ANY car!
I really wish i could be a better person. I really do.
How did i become this person? We never really had anything growing up..........
We shared our cloths within the four of us, we didn't have the nicest car or even a nice big house. But we still made do. Why am i now complaining that my house isn't enough?
I should be ashamed of myself. For becoming this person. I never want this 'person' to ever come back. I want to lock her up and say good bye and throw the key away. That is a person i never want to be.

This mother has brought me back to reality.
I was so tempted today to turn my car around and ask her if she needed a ride. Where ever she needed to go i would take her.
But what would she think?
A lot of people {even innocent looking people} can turn out to be killers right?
Would she think I'm one of them?

All i want to do is help. But i'm so afraid......Maybe it's my shyness gaining control again? Or maybe i'm just being stupid?
After feeling like such an idiot and an absolute helpless i told myself. If i see her again i will turn my car around and ask her if she needs a ride. So what if she'll freak out or say no, or maybe call the cops on me? What if she takes the ride and we {knock on wood that we don't} get in an accident, will she sue me?

The worst she'll do is yell at me or say no right?
No mother should have to see her child suffer like that. Walking in the cold........Well no mother or child should have to walk in the cold snow.

When i see her and her child, i envision myself and my child. Would i like that? How would i feel? I would feel lost and determined.
Lost because i want so bad to have a better life for myself and my child, but i must be like this so that we can have a better future.
Determined because i am determined to have a better life for my child and I!
And i bet that is how she is feeling.

But what if she says yes to the ride and then expects a ride everyday? I certainly can give her a ride but probably not everyday. Will that make me a bad person? Will that make me selfish?
What if she expects more then?

I want to do better as a person. I want to be able to help when help is needed. Why am i such a coward?
I'm feeling lost and lonely because of this......why is it weighing down on me so much?
This year i vow to help as much as i could.
And i will start with this mother and child. They will make me a better person whether they take the ride or not.

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